LIFE WITHOUT SEX

Sexual abstention - a thing in our life not such and rare. For example, quarrel with the husband often pours out in long sexual war while the opponent will disagree to take out a garbage can regularly. Or the partner solves сублимироваться in work - and here already the bed grows with a web. Whether but so abstention how about it speak is harmless?

К.м.н., the psychotherapist, sexologist A.M.poleev:
- In general, abstention - a thing dangerous enough. At men - in respect of physical health, and at women - mental. At the fair sex voluntary refusal of sex is extended, for example, if the constant partner at the woman is not present, and «to sleep with whom has got» it does not want. Men solve this problem simply. If the man does not have beloved, it goes to unloved and somehow satisfies the requirements. And at the stronger sex abstention therefore more often compelled (for example, during service in army).

Researches show, that long refusal of sex at the woman can create to it the big problems.
The matter is that at ladies all "is got mixed up" on psychology - pleasure by sex and оргазменная a discharge are necessary for normal psychological functioning. If they are not present, the woman becomes irritable, quick-tempered, there are very serious changes in character. Sex is after all not only sexual intercourse, but also a symbol of "confidential dialogue» with other person.
And when such dialogue is not present, the woman starts to perceive the world schematically, through a prism of any principles: becomes rigid, very critical in the judgements, inclined to condemn. More often all it has no relation to a personal, intimate life, and extends on sphere of interhuman relations in general, on professional work, for example.
Basically, that all it has not occurred, it is possible to replace sex мастурбацией. But if men are engaged in it practically always (even then, when with their sexual life everything is all right) the woman at voluntary abstention often refuses and it. But if to transfer abstention to you it is very heavy, and to lay down in bed «with whom has got» not in your moral principles, it is quite possible to be engaged in self-satisfaction.

Sexologist Irina Gumennikova:
- Except purely psychological consequences from abstention (sexual абстиненции) suffers also sexual function both at men, and at women.
At men at abstention it can be broken эрекция, there will be problems with семяизвержением. Besides consequences for an organism depend both on age of the man, and from duration of abstention. If to it 25 and strong sexual temperament it will be difficult to transfer even two weeks without sex, but without dependence from duration of abstention on sexual function it is not reflected in any way. At the age of 30–35 years having rummaged in a sexual life for some months can lead premature семяизвержению, to deterioration эрекции. But, as a rule, at restoration of a habitual sexual rhythm it passes. If to the man of 40 years, serious treatment can be demanded from the sexopathologist even. And aged is more senior 50 years having rummaged in two-three months can lead to the termination of a sexual life for ever.
At women abstention leads at first to sharp strengthening of desire, and then, in some months, it can be gone absolutely. Besides after renewal of a sexual life the woman can test unpleasant sensations and even a pain in a vagina as because of abstention it starts to develop less greasings. And excitation begins to accrue not so quickly. By the way, can arise and problems with a discharge. Оргазм at the long period of abstention can "return" only in some months.
What to do? First, after the period of abstention you should ask to prolong the partner preliminary caresses longer. If at a normal rhythm of a sexual life the woman has enough 15 minutes now, to clear "sleeping" erogenous zones, it is required not less than 30. It would be ideal, if the man has finished you to оргазма by куннилингуса. At such stimulation practically all women receive high-grade, bright оргазм even after long abstention. And for влагалищного sexual intercourse it is necessary to use additional greasing while it again "not will learn" to develop its necessary quantity.

If it has appeared so, that not you long abstained, and your man and here it is necessary to observe some recommendations.
As the longer the abstention period, the more man is afraid, whether all in bed will be good, you should be as much as possible tactful. Sneers or reproaches in a man's inconsistency can lead to serious sexual problems. Therefore, even if at the man something will not turn out, simply tell, that it for you ценен first of all as the person instead of as the sexual partner, and that next time all will be much better.

К.м.н., doctor-sexologist Jury Prokopenko:
- Abstention is valid can do much harm very much, but it is not necessary to think, that «for health» it is necessary to have sex for days on end. To conduct an intimate life first of all it is necessary so often as it would be desirable it. It is known, that regular sex - excellent preventive maintenance of a prostatitis at men and gynecologic diseases at women if they arise because of stagnation of blood in a small basin (for example, at excitation). On the average the person is elderly till 30 years 4–5 times a week, to 40 - 3–4, till 50 years - 2–3 times make love, but frequency of a sexual life depends both on temperament, and from psychological features.

If to have sex less often, than it would be desirable, to constrain itself hormonal balance can be broken, arise stagnation of blood. And if to force itself to go to a bed, when there is no special desire, aspiring something such by to cure, can arise if not physiological, so psychological problems. So it is not necessary to do sex «обязаловкой»!